I think that the most arduous thing about being a human being is going through refinement phases as we grow older from an age to another. It is so hard that sometimes we do not want to bare its pain and consequences of realising that during the past time we were missing a warning that now is learnt and comprehended, and thus another piece of the puzzle is harshly added, the picture is clearer now yet not complete, so we move on to find the next.
What I love about human beings is that we are fighters; we do not give up easily on what we want. And the moment we are faced with a real dead end to our dreams, we accept it, surrender, get disappointed, but eventually get over it. No matter how bad we may want something, we are designed to move on: stronger and wiser. And this is the beauty of mankind.
There is a fine line between denial and faith ~ Rose Henderson
I heard that on Lost. This is so very true. I think it is double a meaning statement. That is to say, the statement could be predominantly referring to denial: when saying that there is very fine line between hoping and waiting thinking you are doing the right thing by not giving up yet, all in the name of faith, while deep inside you realise you are just wasting your time and consuming yourself for something that is absolutely not worth it, but prefer to postpone the pain rather than putting an end to it. Or it could also refer to Faith: if you think that there is a fine line between thinking you are in denial, while in reality, you know in your heart you are led by faith not wishful thinking, and you know what you are doing, in spite of circumstances, friends, previous experiences, whatever suggestions that may be there to make you think it is all your imagination and that nothing of this is actually true. This is very different.
Compass
Ironically, while we pass through this dilemma, there is no truthful way to know if we are in denial or being led by faith. This is the trick of life: that later on you only live to tell which one was it. No guidelines no recipes for figuring it out. It is another experience. And the next time you go through the same thing, you would still not know, but you would take more precautions and be able to analyse things objectively, and if you were smart, you would probably get it early, before it is too late, unlike the first time, because then you would have learnt your lesson well.
Human Nature
When I look back at some of my schmucky eras, I cannot but admire the Creator for granting us the gift of time and forgetting. It is mind boggling to see how painful and devastating it feels to let go of something, but in some time you – the very same mind and soul – see that it is actually nothing that you thought it was back then, and you eventually laugh at yourself!
Mark your own rhythm
Growing up is beautiful, getting older is sensational, every day you and I live, we are getting closer to where we really belong, to the things that are best for us, the people who are really worth it, to the promised land of everything we ever wanted. Let us enjoy it. Why do people keep bitterness inside, why dont they just let go of everything and everyone that keep a man locked up inside immaturity and sadness? I believe we are made to live to enjoy this life and meditate in the world around us to try to figure out as much clues as possible behind this cryptic world. Life is gorgeous take a look…
What I love about human beings is that we are fighters; we do not give up easily on what we want. And the moment we are faced with a real dead end to our dreams, we accept it, surrender, get disappointed, but eventually get over it. No matter how bad we may want something, we are designed to move on: stronger and wiser. And this is the beauty of mankind.
There is a fine line between denial and faith ~ Rose Henderson
I heard that on Lost. This is so very true. I think it is double a meaning statement. That is to say, the statement could be predominantly referring to denial: when saying that there is very fine line between hoping and waiting thinking you are doing the right thing by not giving up yet, all in the name of faith, while deep inside you realise you are just wasting your time and consuming yourself for something that is absolutely not worth it, but prefer to postpone the pain rather than putting an end to it. Or it could also refer to Faith: if you think that there is a fine line between thinking you are in denial, while in reality, you know in your heart you are led by faith not wishful thinking, and you know what you are doing, in spite of circumstances, friends, previous experiences, whatever suggestions that may be there to make you think it is all your imagination and that nothing of this is actually true. This is very different.
Compass
Ironically, while we pass through this dilemma, there is no truthful way to know if we are in denial or being led by faith. This is the trick of life: that later on you only live to tell which one was it. No guidelines no recipes for figuring it out. It is another experience. And the next time you go through the same thing, you would still not know, but you would take more precautions and be able to analyse things objectively, and if you were smart, you would probably get it early, before it is too late, unlike the first time, because then you would have learnt your lesson well.
Human Nature
When I look back at some of my schmucky eras, I cannot but admire the Creator for granting us the gift of time and forgetting. It is mind boggling to see how painful and devastating it feels to let go of something, but in some time you – the very same mind and soul – see that it is actually nothing that you thought it was back then, and you eventually laugh at yourself!
Mark your own rhythm
Growing up is beautiful, getting older is sensational, every day you and I live, we are getting closer to where we really belong, to the things that are best for us, the people who are really worth it, to the promised land of everything we ever wanted. Let us enjoy it. Why do people keep bitterness inside, why dont they just let go of everything and everyone that keep a man locked up inside immaturity and sadness? I believe we are made to live to enjoy this life and meditate in the world around us to try to figure out as much clues as possible behind this cryptic world. Life is gorgeous take a look…
10 comments:
What bugs me is that if I've laughed at myself when I was younger, will I laugh at myself now when I'm older??
I like your post.
Yes, I suppose! We will never stop to laugh at ourselves as long as we live to continue to learn new lessons from life, as we grow older. It is okay to laugh at yourself now, it is a healthy sign, it indicates that you have gone way beyond the past and you are so over it that you are able to laugh at it easily with no moroseness inside of you.
I do not think it is an easy thing to do anyways, many people around us are unable to reconcile with their past; childhood, break ups, rejection, death, failure, severe mistakes, unwise decisions, or wasted opportunities…Not every man gets to enjoy inner peace about the past, I believe, and that is why some might even keep repeating their same fatal mistakes over and over again.
Getting over something without any bitterness towards yourself or others is a very mature achievement, in my opinion.
I agree that not everyone is able to move along with their lives without blaming others, themselves or even God about unlucky experiences in their lives. It takes a very high spirit, an enlightened person and a very self confident person. It is easier to blame others for the bad things that happen to us. It is less painful to face ourselves with our defects and confess that we have even partially mistaken.
Men are naturally egoists and stubborn, and I admit we are less flexible than women in accepting “refinement” lessons, it drives our partners crazy sometimes! But it is very hard to be confronted with the fact that we need to be fixed, because we feel like we are okay, we are not perfect but it is okay to go living like this. I know this is hard to understand, but it is part of being a man, I guess!
Anonymous,
When I said "Not every _man_ gets to enjoy inner peace about the past" I was not literally referring to "man" as "Son of Adam"!
lol!
Stupid me! =) I am so glad my wife is not reading this right now! =D
Respect to the Rendition post. And I like this one too, it is very human and different. I think you are very cognisant. Rare in your region if you are still there I wonder what do you do for living.
Very nice post pinky, one of the best quotes I ever read about growing up is: "you can never go back and make a brand new start, but you can always start from now and make a brand new end."
The thing that really bothers me is that many times I learned something when it's too late to apply what I learned on my life, like If u discovered that u really love to or you were supposed to play violin but you are 30 years now, so it's too late, a poor example but hope you'll get it, I just regret the wasted time, but I always try to restart the whole thing and get a new end, or at least enjoy the discovery.I think it's an everlasting process.
What do you think?
@Hu,
Hu are you?! :D I am the least in my region buddy, what are you talking about! ;)
@Blue
You gotta watch Million Dollar Baby! It is never too late to do the things you want to do, and I am counting on that, myself! I mean the miraculous thing in getting older is that you learn about yourself everyday, you get to know yourself pretty well, what kind of men you are, what you like, what kind of friends and partners you should stick around with, what are your capabilities, and how far would you go in order not to compromise on your dreams and kina life you want to lead on this crazy planet. I havent done the things i truly love until now, and i am 26, but how could i regret the past time if i hadn’t known myself then aslan to be able to recognize and do the things she loves! I believe the most important thing is keep record of your learnt lessons and make sure you do not repeat the same mistakes twice, because this is a b****! And again i think not every one is able to do that either!
You are gorgeous!
Good argue,
You are right, but don't you agree that at some spots of our life you keep doing something maybe you don't 100% like it, or you are prevented to do something that you totally like it due to decisions of the past?? ex: I feel like I didn't study the thing that really fits me well, in Egypt it's not that easy to switch your career after graduation, at least I gotta wait some years till I can do that, on the other hand some other fields, especially social fields, you can easily apply what you learned before, I agree it's never too late of course, as I told you, restart and find your brand new end.
Got the movie, but didn't watch it yet:)
Post a Comment